The minute I start scrolling through my social media account, I start seeing #metoo.
And as if seeing stories of women who went through all the horrible things was not enough, people are creating jokes with the hashtag, sharing posts against the campaign that are full of lewd comments from equally insensitive people with sick mentality.
Isn't it all, at the end, justifying women's decision to stay silent??? They knew that they wouldn't be believed, that they would be seen as gold-diggers and character less!
First thing that all the people are asking is, "Why did they stay silent for so long?"
I ask, how do YOU know that they stayed silent?
May be they spoke but no one wanted to support them and they alone didn't have courage and resources to go against their predators.
May be they spoke but their families hushed them.
May be they spoke but they had no platform to make their voice audible.
May be they spoke but they were threatened.
May be... Just may be they had their reasons and we are justifying all these reasons with the kind of response these women are getting with fingers pointing on THEIR character.
Secondly, even if they didn't speak then, why should they not speak now? What kind of logic is this?
Many times, men listen to all the shit their bosses say to them, are ridiculed publicly, credit of their work is taken by others and they ignore it and suffer in silence... They don't raise voice, share stories and protest. May be Just because they have a family to provide.
Now think, when men can't stand against such trivial issues, how can one expect women to do differently that too when the thing is such a taboo in our society, when chances of being believed are almost nill, when working and earning is the only way to have a voice, when the whole our life we are conditioned to adjust and compromise.
Some, alien like people are asking; "why did these women not take the legal action?"
Sir, tell me just one thing. Do you go to the police station once you loose a Waller or your phone?
Probably no because you know that this would be fruitless.
And if you are one of those who would actually go and report, how would you feel if you are blamed for your own misery?
When a woman reports any such thing, she is harassed some more because this is how 'SYSTEM' works.
And if by any miracle, the case reaches to the premises of court, getting justice needs means, money, reach to influential people AND A LIFETIME.
Some other sanskari people are saying that women encouraged these men. One GENTLEMAN was wondering how can a pornstar be raped, she is already selling her body!!!
Manyavar, I pity on your innocence but rape means going against one's consent and a pornstar, a prostitute can also be raped when sex is done against their wish because Every. Single. Woman. And. Man. has the right to say no and no man's ego should be too fragile to honor someone's consent.
And then there are people who are saying that these women now have no career to go to and no family to take care of, now they are obese and ugly so this is their way to get some limelight again.
Only if you know, they still have nothing to gain and everything to lose. Because they are the one being mocked, humiliated and made fun of.
And the irony of ironies is that people now feel the NEED to protect their sons because now any woman can come from left, right & center and blame the innocent men!!!
People who never felt the need to protect their daughters, who never encouraged them to learn self-defense, who always asked women to dress properly, sit properly and walk properly lest any man be seduced, who had a timetable to go-out & come-back for women, who justified men's horrendous acts saying "लड़कों से गलती हो जाती है।" .... These very same people have no advice now for their sons, now they will protect every men by making lewd comments against victims and a even more attacking attitude against women in general.
Even if one sees the reports, 17,700,000 women have REPORTED sexual abuse since 1998... Only since 1998. And these are the reported cases, just forget about the ones that never found a voice to say their #metoo stories.
If this doesn't make you sick in the stomach, if this doesn't make you sad and angry... Then may be a little human part of you have died since long.
I am not even saying that every woman's story is true but even if half of these are true, even if half of these women have finally summoned the courage to stand against all the odds... Shouldn't they be heard? Isn't speaking freely is the right of every woman AND man.
Can't we even hear without judging? May be... this is the time to think and do some introspection.
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