Skip to main content

Wrote it on 1 January 2016

Dear baby,

Happy new year!!!

Let's talk serious today.
25, 30 or may be 35 years down the line, there will come a time when you would start thinking to start your own little family. (We will be fine even if you not go to that path at all) but if you do, even the thought of having a kid will be stressful.

The thought of having a tiny tot, who is totally dependent on you and knows nothing but breathing and feeding and crying, is scary. The dilemma of having or not having a kid would certainly arise.

That day I want you to read this letter. (Hope we are on good terms till then :P)

Though I have no idea about parenthood and I don't know if I would be the kind of mother to whom you will look towards for having an advice or not. But I want you (and everyone else too) to know how wonderful it feels to have someone growing inside you.

My pregnancy has made me a more satisfied, happier, more kind, more loving, more appreciative and more positive.

I've started smiling at people when they stare at my protruding belly. I have started complimenting totally unknown women. I have started offering fruits to random kids.

I smile at the sight of kids with their parents...kids Waiting for the bus and kids having meltdowns in departmental stores amuse me equally.

My faith in humanity has suddenly been restored as everyone seems to have kind of care in their eyes. Whether it is someone closing or opening lift's door for me or someone offering to share my load... The world seems to be a better place suddenly.

I feel less insecure while walking on the roads as a trust in mankind is born even before your birth. May be because I want to pass on all the positivity your way. I keep telling you that you are going to love this bright beautiful world which is waiting for you with wide open arms and loads of love and opportunities.

This is what pregnancy does to you...This is what having a kid in your world does to you.

And if even after reading this, you are not ready to bring a grand child in our lives then feel free. We will never question you life choices.

And yes, a kid may come from you or cone TO you from the lot of improvised children... It will still be yours ..Ours...As long as it has our values and upbringing.

P.S. it seems that I was way to positive on the day when I wrote it. Otherwise I am not that optimistic and 5he world seems quite scary a place to rear a child today.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

No Diwali shopping for us...

Dear baby, Today, I had a little argument with your mausi. She was asking me to buy you new clothes for Diwali. I was saying that we still have 4-5 new dresses and those are perfect for Diwali. She was not convinced. Then your nani also lectured me some for not buying new clothes for Diwali. I tried to tell them that in past people did not have the luxury of buying new clothes every other month, infact, going to the markets was a luxury in itself. So they used to wait for festivals to go to the market and splurge on shopping. The rarity of this was a charm in itself to mark the beginning of the festivities. But.. today, we go outside every other day. Malls are a place to hang out and if you see something CUTE for the kids, the temptation is too hard to resist. Even if you don't go outside then online shopping is there. Hardly goes a month or two when I am not buying some dress or some toys as you are outgrowing your stuff so quickly. Then why all this halla gulla about Diwali

No, I didn't turn out well...

A few days back, me and my daughter both had an upset tummy. I just felt full as I had ate a lot of food the day before and my toddler didn't want to eat for God knows what reason which is very usual with her. So, I thought to skip breakfast. My girl also did not eat her usual amount of food. By noon also, my tummy wanted to continue the food strike but I '"wanted" to eat. My body did not need food yet I "craved" for food. Food was on the back of my mind all the time until i gave in and ate. I felt bloated and nauseated all day. On the other hand, my daughter had only few morsels for lunch, nothing for snacks and a very light dinner. she was happy, active and chirpy... her usual self. That day, I realized that I eat for so many other reasons than my hunger; I eat when I am sad. I eat extra when there is some favorite.   I eat when I can't sleep at night. I keep on munching when I am not actively doing something. I eat as I want to FINISH

From a mum of 12 days old

As I am writing this, a little girl of 12 days is lying beside me. She is too tiny to hold properly yet she has turned my world upside down. I have forgotten what a peaceful sleep means and how would it feel like going outside on my own...alone. I just can't believe that I am feeling so. Having a baby was my long time dream. I have thought of names for my daughter when I myself was in school. After only an year of marriage, I have started pestering my husband to start a family (now I silently thank him for knowing that you are NEVER prepared for a tiny tot to join you) It's not that I was not aware of the changes that a baby will bring in our world but still I feel as if I have been cheated. I knew that a child would bring sleepless nights, I just did not have any idea about cluster feeding. I knew that a kid would depend on me for filling his tummy, I just did not know about sore nipples. I knew that I would be stucked in a room for 40 days of confinement period (a